opening up about the physical abuse she suffered in
the hands of his exstrÂnge husband...
years. Find her story below...
The past three years has been a very emotional
period for me. I focused my energy on work and to
build back my self esteem. its been really hard for
me to come out straight and talk about this
because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and
not believe that I was a victim of domestic
violence. I've been through a lot in my life, faced a
lot of challenges but this is one topic I've tried so
hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right
time but I have come to a resolve that there's
really no right time because every second of the
day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence.
I was a victiim of domestic violence in my
marriage and that was the singular reason I left
my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the
sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have
been through some relationships and for once no
man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it
happened in my marriage I didn't understand it
because I am not the type of woman a man beats but
I guess there are no types. It just happens and no
woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was
love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every
beating he pleads , cries and says it won't happen
again, once again I thought it was love and made
excuses for him. Over the years when it kept
happening consistently I started looking for other
definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride,self
esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost a
pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the
process then I realised how serious and abnormal it
really was.
I have heard and read a lot of accusations from
ignorant people who don't know my story,I guess
that's why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and
very naïve to the world when I got married ." They
said I married for money" LOL. I was married to a
corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a
rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.. So do the
maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional
wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So
that's how much I wanted to be married forever. For
five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it
will all change. But the last straw that broke the
carmels back was during a heated argument he
threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it
shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I
made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.
Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone
because we are entitled to our opinions and believes.
I am not also saying this to discourage people from
falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I
still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share
and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic
violence because it is real.
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